Random Thoughts...

[hammerfan]

Originally Posted by ChronoGrl

Yeah, I've definitely seen it circulate. It just makes me smile with delight every time you post. mwahaha




And now for my random thought of the day: Anyone on here do online dating? I've been using various online sites since June and it's exhausting.

Can't help you with that. Never done it. Not interested in dating anymore. Haven't had a date since 2001.

[TheBossInTheWall]

Originally Posted by SerialKiller

Well that's something I'd watch for sure, but I could probably find a couple of movies like that from the folks at lifetime movie network. Specifically I would just like to see more father/daughter or even father/son story lines in general, in the horror genre. It's usually the mother that's being blamed, or the mother who is trying to save her child,The Babadook, The Exorcist, etc. Not always though, but a lot of the time. I just find this curious.

Oh were you looking to discuss why and not looking for recommendations? Apologies if I misunderstood. As for why, I think that'd be very very hard. I would guess we'd need statistics to start. I fairly certain most directors are white men, but not if a director has kids, how they were raised as children, what their situation is like with their partner, etc.

[ChronoGrl]

Originally Posted by TheBossInTheWall

I do. But without much effort. I imagine for women its very exhausting. From what I hear/read hetero women get loads of messages every day and its hard to sift through them. As well as vulgar sexual suggestions, straight couples wanting another women in bed, and so on.
I stopped sending messages due to lack of responses. The ones I get are from people with very little in common. Sort of blase' about it now. The women I'm interested in are very very few. I've tried a few sites that target goths and those have little activity and mostly 'weekend warriors' or metal heads. Tried geek2geek too and it is also mostly dead.
I think most dating websites need to have an option for women to only receives messages from men they themselves have categorized as possibilities while they're looking at profiles.

Where are you located? Coffee Meets Bagel attempts to do that (you can only message each other if you "like" each other) but its model - a "Bagel a day" (I kid you not) makes it even more sloooooooooooooow.

Not to return to the "Simple Curiosity Pole," but how do you identify? I've historically checked off "Bi Female" but it seems to raise more questions than anything else so I've recently updated to "heteroflexible" (ugh - All because I just don't identify as straight - This is going to sound wishy washy but I had the labeling honestly).

I've found that when I first join sites, I get a flurry of messages (mostly poorly spelled with no grammar or just a "Hi how r u?" as opposed to filthy stuff - I almost prefer the filthy stuff sometimes because it's typically more inventive than "Hi i saw ur profile u seem neet wuts ur name do u have kik?") but tend to taper off (except Plenty of Fish which really just seems to hit the bottom of the barrel - Apologies in advance to my friends who met on there - oops - heh heh).

I've had the most luck with Tinder and OK Cupid. The former, well, I had to take care of some things (heh) and with the latter I find more of the quirky, nerdy guys that I tend to lean to. I have a subscription to Match, which I should cancel because I think the demographic is more for wholesome, vanilla, Christian folks looking to get married and have kids. Not me, nope.

Have you tried Reddit? It's been recommended to me because you get kinda clever weirdos... My issue though is that Yes I want a nerdy guy (tattoos and hipster glasses yes yes yes yes please) but they absolutely have to have their shit together, which surprisingly is harder to find than one would hope.

I had a pretty promising first and second date with a bloke I met last week - Seems nice and I'm desperately trying NOT to become a STAGE 5 CLINGER - Not that easy. I can be fairly intense when I meet someone, romantically or otherwise, and I'm starting to realize that that's not necessarily the best approach...

Originally Posted by hammerfan

Can't help you with that. Never done it. Not interested in dating anymore. Haven't had a date since 2001.

Damn, girl. Well I don't blame you. It's exhausting. Let's go drink wine and play with our cats.

[TheBossInTheWall]

Originally Posted by ChronoGrl

Where are you located? Coffee Meets Bagel attempts to do that (you can only message each other if you "like" each other) but its model - a "Bagel a day" (I kid you not) makes it even more sloooooooooooooow.

I'm in Brooklyn. I don't think a cell phone application for dating is something for me. Ty though.

Not to return to the "Simple Curiosity Pole," but how do you identify? I've historically checked off "Bi Female" but it seems to raise more questions than anything else so I've recently updated to "heteroflexible" (ugh - All because I just don't identify as straight - This is going to sound wishy washy but I had the labeling honestly).

I do not think about my gender identification too much. I don't feel I'm a man or woman or androgynous. I recognize my body is male, I'm attracted to women, but that's about it. On websites I use man/male because it helps other people in identifying me as a gender/sex they're attracted to. I guess I identify as straight in regards to gender, but not sex. Shrug. Though I do find connection in a Propaghandi song lyric(forget which one) where the singer says "and I refuse to 'be a man." I definitely can relate people trying to enforce me to act a certain way according to sex.

I've found that when I first join sites, I get a flurry of messages (mostly poorly spelled with no grammar or just a "Hi how r u?" as opposed to filthy stuff - I almost prefer the filthy stuff sometimes because it's typically more inventive than "Hi i saw ur profile u seem neet wuts ur name do u have kik?") but tend to taper off (except Plenty of Fish which really just seems to hit the bottom of the barrel - Apologies in advance to my friends who met on there - oops - heh heh).


I've had the most luck with Tinder and OK Cupid. The former, well, I had to take care of some things (heh) and with the latter I find more of the quirky, nerdy guys that I tend to lean to. I have a subscription to Match, which I should cancel because I think the demographic is more for wholesome, vanilla, Christian folks looking to get married and have kids. Not me, nope.

okcupid seems to be filled with mostly 'normal' folks. Its free, but mostly women i'm not interested in. Some are very attractive, but not much in common. I've never been interested in any of the sites for casual sex. I want emotional/thought and other stuff before having sex with someone. Not a judgement on you, or that a judgement is valid anyway.

Have you tried Reddit? It's been recommended to me because you get kinda clever weirdos... My issue though is that Yes I want a nerdy guy (tattoos and hipster glasses yes yes yes yes please) but they absolutely have to have their shit together, which surprisingly is harder to find than one would hope.

I've been tangentially connected to to reddit through a boardgame reddit group, but I've stopped playing most board games and never connected with the people that went to them.

I had a pretty promising first and second date with a bloke I met last week - Seems nice and I'm desperately trying NOT to become a STAGE 5 CLINGER - Not that easy. I can be fairly intense when I meet someone, romantically or otherwise, and I'm starting to realize that that's not necessarily the best approach...

Stage 5 clinger? What is that? Intense. In my experience girls are afraid of men who are too intense fairly fast or afraid of their own feelings if they're intense and thus run away from them.

[ChronoGrl]

Originally Posted by TheBossInTheWall

I want emotional/thought and other stuff before having sex with someone. Not a judgement on you, or that a judgement is valid anyway.

Yeah, I totally get that. I'm not offended at all. And where I am now, I'm definitely looking for something more meaningful. I never thought I'd be interested in Tinder-ing (and my friends either make fun of me or just awkwardly look away when I mention it - hahaha) but my situation was that a super long-term relationship ended in March and I went through a bit of a dry spell, moved to a new place and downloaded the app in June. It was good for what I needed at the time but I don't use it anymore.

Originally Posted by TheBossInTheWall

Stage 5 clinger? What is that? Intense. In my experience girls are afraid of men who are too intense fairly fast or afraid of their own feelings if they're intense and thus run away from them.

heehee - Stage 5 Clinger:

[Despare]

Originally Posted by ChronoGrl

My issue though is that Yes I want a nerdy guy (tattoos and hipster glasses yes yes yes yes please) but they absolutely have to have their shit together, which surprisingly is harder to find than one would hope.

Then they would cease to be ironic... you're looking for a unicorn.

[Dead Bad Things]

Hold up Hold up! Waitaminute!!!
Chrono I thought you just got married not too long ago and Hammer...not since '01!!?? what tha??
I live out in the sticks and the selection is very very very limited.... unless hill people are yer thing....
And come on Boss I know you got game so come on Man...
Everybody's lookin' fer the same thing if ya know what I mean....

So get out there and meet somebody face ta face....none of that online stuff ya aint gonna find somebody on the real side that way...

HetroflexibleThat's a term fer my wife but that's another story....
Good luck out there Y'all I know it can be rough but just stay confident I really do believe that there is someone fer everybody....

[anglewitch]

Originally Posted by Dead Bad Things

Hold up Hold up! Waitaminute!!!
Chrono I thought you just got married not too long ago and Hammer...not since '01!!?? what tha??
I live out in the sticks and the selection is very very very limited.... unless hill people are yer thing....
And come on Boss I know you got game so come on Man...
Everybody's lookin' fer the same thing if ya know what I mean....

So get out there and meet somebody face ta face....none of that online stuff ya aint gonna find somebody on the real side that way...

HetroflexibleThat's a term fer my wife but that's another story....
Good luck out there Y'all I know it can be rough but just stay confident I really do believe that there is someone fer everybody....

I don't have to worry about finding someone.
I plan on being a bachelor.

[ChronoGrl]

Originally Posted by Despare

Then they would cease to be ironic... you're looking for a unicorn.

Damnit. You can't be ironic AND have your shit together??

Originally Posted by Dead Bad Things

Hold up Hold up! Waitaminute!!!
Chrono I thought you just got married not too long ago and Hammer...not since '01!!?? what tha??
I live out in the sticks and the selection is very very very limited.... unless hill people are yer thing....
And come on Boss I know you got game so come on Man...
Everybody's lookin' fer the same thing if ya know what I mean....

So get out there and meet somebody face ta face....none of that online stuff ya aint gonna find somebody on the real side that way...

HetroflexibleThat's a term fer my wife but that's another story....
Good luck out there Y'all I know it can be rough but just stay confident I really do believe that there is someone fer everybody....

Good memory! Yeah, we were together for 8 years and married for a year and a half of that (married Nov. 1, 2013!) buuuuuuuuuuuut in March of this year he had a psychotic break and lost it. Good times.

BRING ON THE SINGLE MEN!!

[anglewitch]

I am one of those people that looks like they are in there twenties when they are actually fifteen. I can't think of one time when I have walked by a girl that is in college without her sighing.
I wish they would stop that. Makes me blush.