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08-05-2005, 10:36 AM
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Monogamy Unrealistic?
Just curious as to what everyone's thoughts are regarding the comments Kate Hudson made in this article....just kinda sat with me the wrong way...seems to me like she's sending kind of a wrong/bad message at the end of the article? R/O...
Kate Hudson says monogamy is tricky business – but she's still faithful to her hubby. The Almost Famous Oscar nominee, hot on the promotional trail for her new thriller, The Skeleton Key, opines that marital fidelity isn't practical – though some folks can pull it off. "I don't believe (monogamy) is realistic," Hudson, 26, tells TV's Access Hollywood. "But, I believe that we, as people, have the power to make it happen." Hudson – who married Black Crowes singer Chris Robinson on Dec. 31, 2000, and welcomed their son, Ryder, Jan. 7, 2004 – was quick to add: "I will not disrespect my husband and stray." Asked if she believes Robinson has remained true to her, Hudson answered: "If you focus your attention on that, then you are always wondering if your husband or men are out there cheating on you. ... If for some reason, that's what he has to go do, I just don't want to know. As long as things are good in our house, just please, don't get caught." 
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08-05-2005, 10:40 AM
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I'm a firm believer in monogamy. However, there are people who have difficulty with it (my ex for one). I believe if you get married, or make some kind of commitment (handfasting for example) to someone, they should be the only one for you.
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08-05-2005, 10:41 AM
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I feel the same way TM. I understand that there are many people out there who have a problem committing to only one person..and that's fine. However, once you decide to make a vow to somebody and marry them, you should respect them and stay faithful to them. If you know that you can't, you have no business getting married. I'll also add that it just seems like she's giving him total permission to cheat...the fact that she's just like "Well, as long as I don't know what's going on, I don't care" it's like...WTF? ;) Last edited by MoonLit Meadow; 08-05-2005 at 10:43 AM.
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08-05-2005, 11:21 AM
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I have never cheated on anyone myself, if I feel like I'm straying from the person, I just cut it off. But I have left one relationship to persure another before. I HAVE been cheated on once, and I did stay with the guy for almost 2 years after that. Was I pissed? Of course...Was I hurt? Fuck yes I was...Did I hate him? NO...he was my boyfreind, not my husband.
People do the dating/courting thing for a reason...for most it's to find that ONE person. I have been in a few situations where I was with someone for a few years, thought they were that person, and it wasn't til after one of us strayed to someone else that we realized things weren't as great as we thought...and thank christ it happened that way, or I would have stayed in some pretty fucked up relationships. I can't say cheating is right in any way...as I've said, I break it off before it goes to that, but I can only REALLY expect monogamy from the person I marry...That's when it becomes a real issue, until then, I won't let anyone's foolin' around ruin my life. If they find someone they'd rather be with while they're with me, I know I'll find someone 100x better to me than they ever were. Point is...if it's a boyfriend cheating on me, it sucks, but I can move on. If I ever do get married, that's a different story.
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08-05-2005, 12:03 PM
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I am a firm believer in monogamy. I won't have it any other way. If I get married I really hope that I would remain faithful. If my husband isn't, he's out the door. Likewise, if I'm married to someone, and Goddess forbid someone else comes along. I hope that I will be up front with my husband and either try couselling or seperation BEFORE carrying on with some extramarital affair.
My analysis of Kate's comments 1. Chris is cheating or has been, and he's gotten her snowed into believing it's okay. 2. Kate was a little to immature emotionally and intellectually to get married. 3. They have an open marriage. Either way, that little boy is going to be the one to pay for her stupidity.
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08-05-2005, 12:30 PM
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I've been in one open-ended relationship where we both could see other people while we together. But all that happened was she found someone and I didn't.
It's always easier for the girls...
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Although I will say that for the male species it can be quite difficult at times, but that is really no excuse. If me and my lady decide to call it quits one day then thats that. None of this sneaking around bullshit. And I have a policy. Goes like this, I catch my lady with another guy, girl or whatever. The interloper gets asked one question. Did you know that she was involved in a serious relationship?? Answer NO get out of here and dont let me see your face again. Answer Yes, prepare to reap the whirlwind my friend. Especially if its a guy. Its disrespectful and I aint having it.
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08-05-2005, 03:41 PM
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if i catch my wife with another girl, i'd have one question : Can I join in, and if not, can i watch ? i guess thats really 2 questions ..
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08-05-2005, 03:48 PM
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08-05-2005, 04:16 PM
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Monogamy is pretty important to me.... I don't see the point being with someone otherwise. I've been fucked over in the past and trust is very important to me these days.
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