The LIFE SUCKS thread

[Vodstok]

Originally Posted by urgeok2

no one said life wasnt tough ...
a lot tougher for some ...
but the ONLY way to survive is to deal with the issues, work on the broken parts, draw strength from the things that are going right.

you are young and attractive - you have 4 healthy kids, a supportive family.
all things that give you a huge chance for survival.

I think things will improve ... new challenges alway pop up - they do for everyone .. but i'm pretty sure you'll be looking back at this one day thinking ... well, i got through that ok.




oh - and i know it's not on the same scale - but i do practice what i preach (re perspectives)

I was getting really depressed about the winters up here. VERY depressed ... our summers go by so fast ... the winters are so long and shitty ... and this summer in particular - it rained every day.

but earlier this year - i'm reading the papers and seeing in the news that hurricanes are sweeping away homes and lives in the caribbean, land slides buting 10's of thousands of people in china, the horror in Burma.

I thought to myself - fuck it - Canada has to be the weather - safest place on the planet. I never have to worry about these things ever.

so my perspective had a complete shift .. i realized that i was luckier than most of the rest of the world - and resolved to not worry about the winters anymore.

I'll just stay inside and watch a lot of movies until its over :)

Interesting, this has been my general outlook on life since I was a kid; It took growing up to make me forget it. Now that things have leveled off some, I am starting to come back around; Right now is not nearly as bad as it was a month ago, so I am doing pretty damn good. I am not getting sleep because I am busy, with paying work.

i could be doing a lot worse.

Bree and I were at each other's throats for a long time (WAY too long), but I sucked it up, cleaned up my shit, and now things are better than they have been in years.

It sucks admitting youve been screwin gup, but it feels so much better when you're done :)

[novakru]

Originally Posted by pinkfloyd45769

Thanks so much Nova for thinking of me,its sweet:)I know that there are plenty of people in the world that have it far worse than i do,really i know that.I still believe that my life,for me in my way of looking at it,plain fucking sucks.I'm sorry if i sound like i'm selfish or anything like that at all,i'm really not.I am getting out of bed,taking care of my children,and doing all normal everyday things that everyone else does.I put on a smile and i act like nothing is wrong,like i have it all under control.The truth is..i really don't!I want to reach for a pill more and more everyday,i thought it was supposed to get easier.I am starting to feel like i'm just not the person that i thought i was,like i'm living two lives.I keep most of my thought to myself,its easier that way.If you put your shit out on the table,you have to listen to all the advice you don't want.I never talk about me anymore,i avoid it.I just want my life back,the life that i thought i had.I don't want to hear my kids ask me where their daddy is or why i'm crying.I think hiding things from kids is the hardest thing to do,they know more than you think they do.Sorry i rambled on,i'll stop here:)

You are not being selfish in the least.
It's always nice to know when things are tough, there is someone or something to back you. Someone to say, 'you don't need that pill honey' :)
It makes things a little less hopeless. I have been so far down that abyss, when the things that are good in life just does not counteract or alleviate the pain.
I have always believed that when things are rough in life, we all have the strength to pull through, but sometimes if there isn't anyone TELLING you that, some people get a little lost in the muck and mire- you know?
I know it makes me feel so much better when a friend points out what I have survived so far, so this or that cannot possibly be too much for me to bear. That there will be an end to it at some point.

That was the point of the thread, sometimes it just feels good to get it out. Somewhere, somehow. Not to become a boo-hoo thread, just a place to vent out some things, to hear some encouragement when your heart hurts.
I thought that since it was a supportive team around here, it wouldn't be a huge step to assume people would be kind. Guess I was way off the mark.

Anyway sweetie, if you need me, you have my email:)

[urgeok2]

Originally Posted by novakru

I thought that since it was a supportive team around here, it wouldn't be a huge step to assume people would be kind. Guess I was way off the mark.

i dont think everyone is being unkind and there is a lot of support here..

i think some people were just worried that it would get a little drama heavy ... and there was a great deal of unproductive drama in the past.

thats just my guess anyway


personally - i like to always see the positive side of things ..

[Bub the Zombie]

Originally Posted by novakru

That was the point of the thread, sometimes it just feels good to get it out. Somewhere, somehow. Not to become a boo-hoo thread, just a place to vent out some things, to hear some encouragement when your heart hurts.
I thought that since it was a supportive team around here, it wouldn't be a huge step to assume people would be kind. Guess I was way off the mark.

You cannot expect comforting rain from a house which is on fire. You can get only smoke from it.

As urgeok pointed out, people at least have a puter, Net access, and a forum like this to make a thread to vent out on. Millions die out there without even a trace of their existence, fighting till the end for the more common things - food, water, decent clothing and a roof.

Life is tough, and each human who lives it goes through its brutal toughness. That is how it is - at least all of us are not like some squirming maggots inside smelly drains, gnawing out our miserable existences in it till death comes like a huge relief - and for that, we should be a bit more thankful, and happy.