working moms vs stay at home moms

[pinkfloyd45769]

My kids have great manners and i disagree that they can only learn these things from parents.In my case my children actually learn/listen more from someone other than me.In my case my mother is no longer working so she is my babysitter,i guess thats the next best thing to mom.My kids seem to be good kids,all kids talk back from time to time no matter who raises them.Its great Rod that you are a stay at home dad,those are few and way too far between.

[Phalanx]

I'd find it a challenge to be a stay at home dad...one that I'd like to actually give a shot to...but in all honesty being involved in a relationship with the same chick for quite some time now it's safe to lean towards assuming that it won't be a single parent situation - essentially, we've talked about it - it's just going to be down to whoever makes the most cash to work through the majority, maybe even exchange every year or two, to give us both sides of the experience.

But yes...parenting (IMO) can be delivered successfully, single parent or not, working parent or not. Nobody can really make blanket statements about either side...it's about doing the best you can with what your life/situation allows...

[pinkfloyd45769]

I'm getting ready to go back to school to further my education as well as working semi full time.I know that its going to be a bigger challenge to do all of this while raising my kids and i accept that.This is the first time in my adult life that i feel in charge of MY life.I am wearing a pretty big hat in all of this and i have to admit its a little scary.I guess reading the article at this point in my life was like a slap in the face.Its a hard job either way you go and its a big decission the will change everyones life that is involved.I think no less of a mother or father that chooses to stay home,its really a great thing if you have that option.In my case,its work or let my parents support me and my children.I was really uncomftorable with that so i decided to be the sole bread winner for my family.If i had the kind of husband that worked and supported us i would not work and just finish the schooling that i want to take.However,thats not in my cards!

[ManchestrMorgue]

Personally, I think if you are in a position to do it, it is better for the child for a parent to be at home.

However, this can't be an absolute rule.

If the parent ends up resenting the decision so much that they ruin their relationship with the child, then this is obviously not going to be in the child's long-term best interest.

Likewise, if it would be so economically arduous that the family would have to go without essentials like proper healthcare, accommodation, food, etc; then this would obviously create its own problems.

Having said all this, if the decision is for the parent to work, then I would think that the child being minded by a grandparent (or similar) would be better than a child care centre. That is assuming that the grandparent is reasonable and responsible.

[pinkfloyd45769]

My kids are really close with my parents so it makes it really easy for all concerned.I'm working hard towards a better future for me and my children.If a stay at home mom wants to judge me for supporting my children and wanting to give them the best life imaginable then thats fine with me.

[novakru]

I have seen bad stay-at-home moms and bad working moms.
I have seen more great stay-at -home moms than either, and am proud to call them my friends.

There are some women that work that are excellent with all the juggling and I give them BIG KUDOS, I have no idea how they do it, it's alot of work.


I also have seen the stay at home moms that stand around and talk shit as urge mentioned. I actually see them 5 days a week after school and I truly pity them.


I think the majority of women do the best they can with what they have.