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07-30-2005, 11:20 PM
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Ungrateful?
Totally random, but here goes...
My next door neighbor had been trying to have a baby unsuccesfully for a few years. She even had a couple of miscarraiges, and had become very depressed because of her inability to conceive. Last year we were talking, and I felt so bad for her. She started crying, and said something to the effect of "Do you think I'll EVER get pregnant?" It was just awful to see her go thru that. So fast forward to the present....she finally got pregnant and just had a baby about 3 weeks ago. Anyway, I happen to be out in the backyard today and she was sitting outside as well. She called me over to see the baby, and we started talking.... So she says to me..."I would NEVER do it again" and starts complaining about how long and difficult the labor was. Then she tells me that she's trying to find a nanny b/c she wants to go back to school in the fall and won't have anyone to watch the baby...she just seemed really kind of annoyed with her new found motherhood. I guess my point here is that...her comment just really kind of annoyed me. She wanted to have a baby so badly, and couldn't for so long...and now that she's been able to have one, she acts like it was such a bad experience for her...and now she's just dying to find somebody who will watch it while she goes off to school ;) Like...WTF? I guess I just expected her to be over-joyed with the fact that she was finally able to have a baby...but now that she has one, she's less than thrilled. Sorry this is so long...just ranting. :p Any thoughts on this matter would be nice though:D 
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07-30-2005, 11:41 PM
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People are the most ungrateful sods ever. It's awful. =(
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07-31-2005, 12:18 AM
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This is what I believe:
Some girls have babies because they feel like they have no purpose in life. A child gives us a reason for living. Its sad, I have seen so many girls have children and they treat their kid like a doll. Then the child grows up with the same worthless feeling. And it just goes around in circles. No use too the world. but with a baby, you don't care about that. I love the human race :D :(
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07-31-2005, 03:31 AM
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I had a miscarriage four years ago, and all I wanted for two years was a baby to replace that hole the miscarraige left. However, when the trauma wore off, I've actually found that I may not want children. I definitely want dogs, though. Now that I have two dogs (Sophie and Sadie May), I found that I love them.
Your neighbor sounds like she went through what I did, and then found refilling that hole with another baby was not actually what she wanted to do. Unfortunately, she's got a committment and a life to take care of. She can't be bouncing in and out of her child's life. She'll regret it, and the child will resent it.
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By the time you're twenty-five they will say you've gone and blown it. By the time you're thirty-five I must confide you will have blown them all
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#5
07-31-2005, 03:54 AM
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Is this the BHT baby you were going to see the other day ?
Be careful what you wish for. CK
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#7
07-31-2005, 01:03 PM
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NOOOOOO ;) Different baby. I told you EVERYONE around me is having babies. Friggin' twilight zone maaaaaan.:p
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07-31-2005, 01:05 PM
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I just didn't expect her to act like that...she's in her late 30's...married....she seems pretty stable and together...Marroe and Haunted made some good points...she could've just been trying to replace what she lost w/o really thinking it through first...or she could be going through post-partum depression. I guess it's not my place to judge...just caught me off guard.
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07-31-2005, 01:08 PM
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CK
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07-31-2005, 01:09 PM
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LMAO. I KNOW! It's like something's in the water. SPOOOOKY :p
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