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Originally Posted by adamhenderson
Yeah it is interesting how all that works. See I would have thought that his natural proclivity towards feminine hobbies would be a massive 'in' for him in regards to success with the ladies. I didn't think women rejected men for being too feminine in the same way that men rejected women for being too masculine (I thought women were somehow less shallow in that regard).
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Well, not all stereotypes are negative... and it's a big myth that woman are less shallow, but I think they do tend to try to protect the idea that they're not. Of course, as with everything else, this is obviously a HUGE generalisation, and I am in no way suggesting that ALL woman (or men, for that matter) are shallow. But when talking to woman with no men in the room, it's all about looks and money for quite a lot of them.
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Originally Posted by adamhenderson
Maybe its a fine line with these matters.
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I definitely think so - I think
up until a certain point, you would be right in thinking that it's an advantage. But of course, again, that IS a generalisation. And I'm living proof of that - I've fallen for a few guys over the years who crossed that line completely.
I also think that our natural appearances can influence how we are read. I've been picked on and rejected all my life for being "butch", but I'm really not sure I would have been read that way if I didn't happen to be tall, broadshouldered and have facial features that are generally not considered "pretty".
In fact, I've noticed that people seem to automatically expect me to have a tough, dominant personality, even though that is as far from the truth as you could possibly get. So I don't think I can get away with as much as a "pretty" girl would, without being labelled as masculine.
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Originally Posted by adamhenderson
Okay how about this:
I've been dabbling with writing horror fiction for the last few months (massive Stephen King fan, but I want to write a bit more subversively than him), and I've come up with an idea for a novel that is a subversion of the slasher movie.
Instead of a male killer, the killer is a woman, and instead of women dying for being promiscuous, men are killed for only valuing women for their visual appearance. I wanted the female killer to be a Kathy-Bates-in-Misery type character.
Is it too on the nose, do you think?
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Well... there are plenty of "revenge movies", but not sure if I've seen a story with that exact story line.
I don't really like the idea of one gender punishing the other though, but that's just my personal opinion :)
I'm going to sound like such a cynic right now, but in recent years I have come to the conclusion that most relationships are based on superficial values anyway. At least I really don't think that one gender is better than the other in that respect.