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Originally Posted by Kandarian Demon
I can tell you from experience that that is very true! My theory - and it's only a theory - is that some woman feel threatened by another woman who is able to be "one of the guys", and see it as an unfair advantage (although believe me, being a tomboy is NOT the way to get a date!).
I also suspect that maybe, even if it's subconsiously, that is what bothers some of you guys who have a problem with feminine men, as you talked about in your post. I had a male friend once who was very effeminate. I didn't have the boundaries with him that I would normally have in the company of a man. We even shared a bed on a few occasions.
And I experienced on several occasions that men threatened or harrased him when we were walking down the street together - but more often than not, they seemed to be in a rage because I was by his side, and it seemed very important for them to point out to me that they were real men and he was not.
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Interesting. I've never harassed a guy with a girl, boyfriend/girlfriend or otherwise. I don't have any desire to. That's not one of my faults.
Being envious or jealous of a feminine guy enjoying the company of a woman I'd like to have company with? I don't doubt I've experienced that. Again, I wouldn't threaten or harass a dude because of it. If they're not dating, then I really wouldn't care. I know how to be a friend, and I know there's an aspect of 'friend' that is the kiss of death to being 'more than friends'. If I just want to be friends with a woman, I don't feel restrained in pursuing that.