[urgeok2]

here's the deal ..

as i said - i dont technically 'date'

i have gone out with girls i had an interest in as a friendship that has already begun to develope.


only twice did i date - both times i was set up by friends (unnessessary, unwanted, unwilling) but i did it because the girls were already commited.

what a shitty way to spend a couple of hours ... sitting across from someone you dont know .. who have a 90% chance of being someone you wouldnt spend time with. in both these cases the girls were attractive but vaccuous .. which pissed me off that my friends at the time would think i could possibly hit it off with them.

despite my kidding around i have more criteria than a pretty face and a vagina.



any girl i've liked enough to become friends with were maybe a bit based on beauty at first - but were far more about brains. I love a healthy combination of both.

I am not the 'strong silent' type. to me thats just bullshit. Guys are generally silent because when have fuck all to say.
I love conversation. I hate small talk and never partake in it. If someone seems to have a brain - there will be conversation - 2 way - and lots of it.

I dont know anyone with any intelligence who can talk for 2 - 3 hours without eventually touching on the philosophies of life, books, movies, music, art, and sexuality. Most of these things are interconnected.

I think the manners mentioned above are neccessary for any occasion - not just dating. When you're 'dating' just be yourself.

That to me is most important thing - at all times - dating or otherwise - be yourself.

the thought of people being on their best behavior to make good impressions makes me want to puke. meeting people shouldnt be like fly fishing. it shouldnt be that hard.

i guess if you're a pathetic excuse for a meatbag you have to try anything - and thats a shame.... i know there are a lot of people who have no choice but to resort to bullshit and tricks ... i just hope they get what they deserve - instead of fucking up some innocent person who is just too nice and naive to suspect the lies.



and THATS... how i feel about dating.



ps ... i always ask the ladies what kind of lingerie they dig on 'the first date' too.


its not what you ask ... its how you ask it.