[Roderick Usher]

Forgiveness is tricky. Forgetting is foolish.

I've enver understood a grudge. I've never held one against anyone and hope I never do.

There are people who have harmed me, be it physically, emotionally or financially and I have struggled with forgiveness with each of them. I'll never forget what has been done, because that would leave me open to be hurt in the same manner by the same person... fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.

But the grudge never comes into play. If a person has marned me I either forgive them or I don't. If I forgive, then everything's cool. If I don't forgive, I simply ignore the person, never giving them an in to cause harm again. Or I kill them with kindness, it really drives people batty to show them thier actions have no effect on your life.

But for the most part I forgive. People are essentially selfish and stupid, so I understand their motivations for most things. I really only feel injured when I see someone's motivation for causing harm as pure pettiness.