[monalisa]

I've been thinking a lot about this and was wondering how others deal with this. I am generally a very forgiving person, sometimes to a fault. I don't necessarily forget though. Not to the point of all out holding a grudge, but just being aware. I am usually willing to give a person another chance, but I will be wary of them, and sometimes even that goes away with time.

Some people have so badly betrayed me, I just have chosen to not have them in my life at all so they don't get another chance to hurt me. This happened here, and I don't want to bring up old bad feelings, but others have, so I will, but in a more gentle way. I hestitate to even mention the name, but if I beat around the bush the new people will just get curious and this will turn into a big "who is she talking about" thing. Trippin' fooled me and betrayed me so badly, I can't even describe the pain I went through cuz of that guy. For the new people, PM me and I can tell you who and how awful this person is, I'd rather you do that than clutter this thread up with all that bullshit.

Anyway, I was totally wrong about him and I sincerely apologize for any wrong-doing on my part while I was still caught up in his web of deceit. He not only fooled me and betrayed me and totally fucked up my life at the time, he is still fucking up my life in some ways today.

So....my point of this whole thread is:

How to other people deal with the whole "forgive and forget" philosophy? This is not meant as a place to beat each other up with rude comments, although humor is welcome. I am always interested in hearing other people's thoughts and how they deal with things in life. Hope you are too.