[monalisa]

Hi. I hesitate to even bring this up because I’m afraid that idiots like bub the zombie will just have stupid tacky comments to say and nothing helpful, but I am looking for some advice. So fuck it, here it goes.

My dad was in a car accident last weekend and is still in the hospital. From all the testing they did at the hospital to check for injuries from the accident, they’ve found that he has kidney problems. When his regular doctor was consulted about it, he basically said that he’s noticed the kidney levels were high, but they’ve been that way for a while, so he didn’t feel the need to address it. Well fucking A, guess what, now since the accident he’s going through kidney failure and has to go on dialysis or will probably only have 1 or 2 weeks to live if he doesn’t go on dialysis. He’s decided to try dialysis, so that’s good.

What I’m having trouble with is the resentment I feel towards his doctor. My dad has had a lot of things going wrong lately that now we’re being told that are all symptoms of kidney problems, and his fucking doctor has been aware of them and just deemed them ‘normal for him’. Well, yah, normal for him if he has kidney problems.

A similar thing happened to my mom. She was complaining for a few years about losing weight, no appetite, generally feeling like crap and lots of digestive problems. Her doctor just blew it off and attributed it to her being old. Well then she ended up in the emergency room for severe abdominal pain. They found out she had pancreatic cancer and was dead 6 weeks later.

It just seems like doctors have the attitude that if a person is old, well they’re old and gonna die soon anyway, so who gives a shit. I’ll tell ya who gives a shit, the people that love them. And they wouldn’t die so soon so often if they got quality care from their fucking doctors.

Arrrrgggg, I’m so angry I could scream. I really try to look at the bright side, but it’s tough in situations like this. I’m just trying to focus on that dad is willing to try the dialysis and it will hopefully make him feel better so he can enjoy life again.

Got more long winded than I hoped to be, but any advice will be very much appreciated!