[stygianwitch]

i have nothing against sluts, i have a friend that i would almost describe as one, that's her choice and as long as she doesn't involve me in the whole mess then live and let live, i'm not going to lose a good friend just because she has loose morals.

i've been labelled a 'slut' on many an occasion.... how did i earn this title? i turned up, at a party, or a 'do' that was mostly couples. i walk into the room and all the women see 'over 25, female, single' and think "can't find a husband of her own, must be after mine" the night just goes downhill from there.

the crowning glory was at a new years eve party in the pub one year, i was with a group of friends and everyone mingling as you do at parties, a guy that came in regularly came and sat at our table for 5 minutes chatting to everyone, he goes away, next thing i know his wife is sitting at the table, takes off her wedding ring, slides it towards me and says "you might as well have this", how fucked up is that... i got up and walked out, don't go to parties anymore.

'slut' is a label that is sooooo easy to acquire and extremely difficult to get rid of, if you're seen with certain people, or in certain places, if you wear provocative clothes, or for all sorts of stupid reasons you'll be labelled a 'slut'. Someone only has to hear you called that once and you have a reputation before morning.... you have to spend a lot of years locked away in your home to dispel labels like that

so no, i don't have a problem with sluts.... but i fucking hate labels