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As someone who suffered a couple of bad long-D relationships, but turned the most recent one into a great marriage (almost 10 years and 2 cool kids) please take this little bit of advice.
Sure you get a grieving time - this is traumatic - but the worst thing you can do is pine for what once was. If you want to go back to how it was before, you'll never move forward.
Accept the situation for what it is (after a certain period of adjustment) and allow the relationship to evolve into whatever it has to be to survive. But keep the presseure off yourself and her to re-capture the fleeting sensation of falling in love with her.
Being in love and growing in love will never feel quite like falling in love, so don't expect it too.
Sorry if that came out preachy, I just feel for you and have too much experience in this realm.
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"Little, vicious minds abound with anger and revenge, and are incapable of feeling the pleasure of forgiving their enemies."
Earl of Chesterfield
"A man that studieth revenge keeps his own wounds green, which otherwise would heal and do well."
Francis Bacon
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