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Originally Posted by Miss Olivia
Nudity doesn't bother me....graphic sex scenes are another matter. I can't watch stuff like that with my nine year old. He's going to do it one day whether I agree or not, I just don't want him to be obssessed with doing it before he hits puberty. Just me. I'm not saying anybody else's child rearing techniques are right or wrong, velcro them to the ceiling for all I care, it's just my personal feeling about it. I've met way too many people who lost their virginity at eleven or twelve, but so far I've only met one preteen murderer.:p
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See this is interesting, and I think it has a HUGE impact on how people see sex and nudity. i dont view sex or nudity as dirty, but i have always been very aware that the people around me did. My first exposure to anyt of this was getting my hands on a Penthouse at 9. That kind of thing sets a pretty different stage from kids who get a more gentle, realistic introduction to the subject. I spent a huge portion of my life with little confidence around women (i use the term to descibe females around my age at the time, in highschool and then after) because I didnt know how to handle myself around them. if i was attracted to a girl, that was it, i was completely unable to communicate with her properly. I ended up dating girls who pursued me because in every case, they were someonei would not have thought of in that light, becaus ei was not immediately attracted to them. they were people, so it was easy.
Sadly, if i was immediately attracted to someone, they were an object, some sort of unatainable thing.
looking back, it is incredibly sad that i grew up this way. My outward attitude and actual feelings on the subject are probably the healthiest around, but my core psychology underlying all of it is pretty fucked up. Fortunately knowing this makes one able to work through it.