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I have one regret: That i didnt realize what kind of people my parents were becoming earlier...
Recently i had along phone conversation with my mother that really changed the way i look at my past. Bree and I had been getting into arguments about my relationship with my family. i used to be VERY close to them, and we are currentlyin New Hampshire, one of the last places we want to be now because i wouldnt leave an area near my family when we first met.
Since then, they have pulled some pretty inexcusable shit. We were practically ignored by them at our wedding. my sister promised us wedding gifts, which never came. my mom changed the music we were playing (we had the wedding in my parent's back yard.. mistake...) and when one o fht eother guests asked about it her response was "its my radio, i can play what i want". Real mature...
Then, this past spring, i had been unemployed for months when the area got slammed with a week straight of storms. the river going through our back yard rose to thepoint that they evacuated the park we live in. And we didnt know if our insurance covered floods (we have since found out that it does). We shacked up with my parents, who proceeded to go on with their lives as if we werent there, which is fine, but they were doing it to the point that they had no sympathy for our situation. We werea bout to lose EVERYTHIGN as far as we knew, with a 5 month old baby, and they acted as if we were over for dinner the 5th time that week. they were even put-out that we asked if they would buy us a playpen so that Lily would have a place to sleep, because we didnt have money, because there was no income in our household, because I didnt have a fucking job.
2 days later, i had gone for a job interview, which went well, for a $76,000 a year job. Then later that afternoon, i got a call for a technical screening from a guy who didnt know what he was supposed to ask me. he was asking me how i would program somehting over a phone.... thats kind of like asking someone to describe how you would write a detailed research project over the phone, it's stupid and doesnt refelct your ability to complete to task in any way. So i found out the day after that, ididnt get the job, because i got panned for the screening. Talking to my mom later, i mentioned it to her and she said "yeah, whatever.." and acarried on as if i had said nothing.....
fast forward to our last conversation, it came out that my family fully intends to treat my niece better than my daughter because of the circumstances surrounding her birth (i wont get into it).
That was the last straw for me. I tend to be the kind of person where shit just rolls off my shoulders, but hearing that my daughter was going to be treated second class was it.
If i had known that my aprents had changed into those kind of people, i would have stopped talking to them a long time ago.
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