[Stingy Jack]

Well, I never had the perfect mate in mind when I started dating women. I tended to meet them through friends or social gatherings, or class (when I was a student, not a teacher), or work. And it would always turn out that some girl would listen to me talk, and decide that they wanted to get to know me better. Never have I had to approach a girl first. I guess I was just lucky that way. Every girl I dated had flaws, just like every girl I dated saw the flaws in me. But, you have to look past the flaws if you expect to find happiness. Otherwise, you just sit around waiting for perfection to come along (which it never will.) I never believed that there was one girl that was "right" for me. I think there were many. And I just happened to get married to one of them. :D There are things about my wife that I used to wish she would change ... but I discovered that I am happy that she is different than I am in a lot of ways. It keeps me feeling like an individual. We agree on all the BIG compatibility issues (religion, how we raise our kid, politics) and differ on small things like entertainment, hobbies, decor, and food. It is enough to make us great friends and yet retain our individuality -- you know?

As far as looks go, I like all types. Blondes, brunettes, redheads; big, small; fair skinned, dark skinned; green eyes, brown eyes, blue eyes; whatever. As long as they had good teeth and a pretty smile. :)

I think you need to be more open to women if you're truly going to be happy. Give a few of them a chance. Get to know them. You may find that the "perfect woman" for you was someone you never expected.