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Originally posted by Gothic-chick
No I have never had a child resulting from rape. But I was raped and had the possibility of being pregnant and plenty of time to think about it before knowing I wasn't. I can say with absolute certainty I would NOT have chosen abortion.
A 13 year old girl is nowhere near mature enough to make a decision like that. As a parent I would and should make it for her. It's cut and dry for me and my family. Abortion is never an option no matter the conception.
I know someone who got pregnant at 17 and didn't tell her parents.She didn't tell anyone at all except the father. She thought she made the right choice and at 17 walked into a clinic where 30 year old adults took her baby from her body with no parental consent.
To this day she suffers the agonizing pain of what she did. Her regret is not telling her parents who she knew would not have allowed it to happen. She told me about it all when she was 38. She is 40 years old now with no children. She feels undeserving of being a mother.
It ruined her life totally. She gave up on all of her dreams and ambitions. All because of that decision she was way too young to make on her own. She is married to the father of that baby. Their lives are a total mess. They agonize daily about the choice they made. They think they will burn in hell for what they did.
She tells me that they have both had nightmares of that baby crying for them. They see that baby in all of their neices and nephews.
That someone is my sister. I love her to death and she killed her baby. Plain and simple she killed her baby. Nothing will ever change my mind about abortion. It will and does ruin lives.
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Meh... As I have already said, my wife got pregnant once before we were ready to have a child. We were careful, used birth control, but it happened. We could not afford to have the baby, and we also could not afford her taking time off from work to carry the baby to term and go through recovery. We both agreed that abortion was the only option, under the circumstances. And we went through with it. She does not regret it, she is not miserable, our lives are not destroyed ... at least, not in the way they would have been had we decided to keep the baby. And this is when we both mature enough to make decisions on our own. You can call us stupid, lazy, or what have you. But, the fact remains that we were careful. We used birth control, and it fucking happened anyway. And don't you sit there and tell me that I should not have sex with my
wife if I wasn't ready to have a baby. Do
you plan to have a kid every time you have sex with your spouse? Remember, we were protected! So, what's good for some people is not for others. Just because your friend feels she made the wrong choice, and allows herself to dwell in that misery, does not mean that the service is not helpful for others.