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Originally Posted by Tracy133
...At the end of the night before we left she wanted to exchange numbers so that we could all hang out on new years. ...
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That being the case, I assume you had told him the woman asked to make plans for New Years, and not you. There's a chance he didn't like you "appearing" to make plans for both of you without talking to him first. That's not unusual for anyone. It's the "appearance" that counts, cause that's all he has. When she asked you to come to New Years, of course, you could have said, (or may have said) "I'd like to, if BF is OK with it. I don't know what he has in mind." But I don't think it's a big issue.
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Originally Posted by Tracy133
I mean as far as the conversation went regarding him not wanting to be in a relationship... He was talking about how long it's been for him being with somebody. And I agreed for myself. I mean I'm really careful about those things. I do not just do random hook ups.
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OK, got ya. That being the case, I wouldn't look too far into it. I mean, really, could he mean he never wants to marry again? I doubt it. People change their minds about "getting serious" really fast.
If you needed to know, you could ask him to explain what he means by it... but, I'd suggest, the fact that he SAID it to you, it
likely means he's open to dating other people (even if he doesn't act on it)... meaning, he's not centering in on you.
So, I'd recommend to you what I'd generally recommend to anyone who is not in a
spoken exclusive relationship: date other people. I'm not saying tell him you're dating others. I'm saying don't talk about dating others, and really date other people. Because unless he's trying to manipulate you, he's telling you he's not "all-in" on you, which is a milder form of "not that in to you".
Not that you would, but don't respond to what he said with a competitive instinct, to "make him" all-in. Just get to know him as a friend and date other people.