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Originally Posted by Morningriser
I have always felt alone and I hate it! I have had no one. I am 34 and only been in love once and only ever had 1 sexual partner and she and I have had such a long history but she doesn't appreciate me, only what I can do for her. I stay with her because I have nowhere else to go. All my family who cared about me is dead and she always reminds me of how no one wants me. I feel so useless and just want to feel needed and wanted.
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Are you staying in her house or apt -- where you don't own the house or you're not on the lease?
If you've been with her a long time, and you don't feel she appreciates you, I'd recommend talking to her about how you feel in a constructive manner -- specifically letting her know you want to improve your relationship. She may help with how you feel, loneliness & other things.
Before you act, it's important to remember everyone likes what you do for them -- it doesn't mean they don't love or appreciate you. In a way we "use" the people we love. I'm not saying she does love you, I'm just saying to examine things fairly in a sober mind.
And people get into ruts... where they forget to express their appreciation of you, and even forget to give back to you. Sometimes we just need a reminder to "get back into relationship".
But after very careful consideration, if you two aren't compatible, you have to discuss moving on -- and begin "tilling the field" -- which can be a painful process, but the only way to a new relationship/life. You can't start dating a new woman while you're living with your girlfriend.