A Fresh Start
 

All I ask here is that you all hear me out.

There was a famous story that once began "Once again, HDC descends into a cesspool..."

We've been bickering and arguing a lot lately. I, along with others old and new, have invested a lot of time in this forum. The intent of this thread is to head it off at the pass before we all fall down.

We've had a lot of fun here, whether you're new or old. We have a lot of fun projects, some past, some present and some that are being constructed as we speak. There are games to be played, there are monumental efforts to increase horror movie knowledge going on by several people on several projects right in front of us. There are good laughs, and there are good friends.

Yet, all we seem to be able to do is get pissy about who posts too much. Angry about who has not earned the right to be so abrasive. Upset about people are curious about without a scent of direction.

From the creator of the Asshat thread, I know these topics well.

First statement, and it is a given: for the most part, we are all assholes. There are those who will never get used to us, and I wish them well in finding a better (although I can only assume far less interesting) home.

There is a thing called the ignore function. If you don't know how to use it, here are the instructions:

Click on a members user name or avatar. Under the avatar on the right hand side, there is a function called "Add user to ignore list."

In one swoop, you can eliminate having to read any responses to someone you disagree with. If we can't be civilized, at least we can ignore.

Second, can we make an effort? If we are frustrated with someone, can we tell them on a level that wouldn't get most people deported in real life? There is a difference between being curmudgeony and being a prick for the sake of being one.

I also understand there is a breaking point. I've hit mine a few times here, and it's not a pleasant thing. All I ask is that we take the appropriate response before we turn the forums into such trash that we drive good members away because of overexposure to drama.

Sincerely,
-Flayed

RIGHT.....Onwards and upwards my friends. In the immortal words of Bluto

"Over? Did you say "over"? Nothing is over until we decide it is! Was it over when the Germans bombed Pearl Harbor? Hell no!

What the fuck happened to the Delta I used to know? Where's the spirit? Where's the guts, huh? This could be the greatest night of our lives, but you're gonna let it be the worst. "Ooh, we're afraid to go with you Bluto, we might get in trouble." Well just kiss my ass from now on! Not me! I'm not gonna take this. Wormer, he's a dead man! Marmalard, dead! Niedermeyer...dead"

and for the record....I'm not an asshole :D

Well said.

I've been admittedly pretty dickish lately...and I think I've offended some people that I really wish I hadn't. I think just one stupid post may have lost me the respect of a member here that I genuinely consider a friend, and that honestly saddens me.

We've all been overly sensitive lately. A lot of us that would normally stay on the sidelines are becoming shit stirrers and not even realizing it until it's already too late.

I know I can honestly say that I'm going to stay out of this shit from here on out, as I've done in the past...I hope others will follow suit.

"dickish"....is that even a word?

Well.......I think its that time again.....I know most of you are uncomfortable with this....but just let it happen.....c'mon.....its time for a















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You're damn right it is!*



* now that I've added it to spell-check's dictionary

Thank you thank you thank you!!!

Yes, that goes to all 3 of you!!!
Athough there's something a bit disturbing about that picture. :D

I started off with the quoted reply, nee, "addition" of Zwoti because :-

1 - The Stickied thread is closed.

2 - This thread's topic is the best place to address it.


We DONT need to have a regular spat of bannings, if the seeds of shitstorms were pulled out in the first place.

When someone, either a regular or a new member, posts something which might cause a problem, dissension, flame war, anything which would add to the detriment of HDC, the least it could be done is delete the said post. That would have sent a strong message to the said person that such kind of behavior will not be entertained, and there is always someone watching over you. You can argue and say that it would be categorised as "Behavioural Modding", but I call it - weeding the garden. Also, it would serve as some kind of a first warning too.

Such said posts often stay, and plant a seed of in-fighting. Which gets worse, and worse.

I know its not possible to scan or look through all the threads, but when a member approaches with a particular problem, it needs to be dealt with. Some members dont like reporting a particular problem - like Despare never reported (or reports, for that matter) - but that doesnt mean the problem doesnt exist.

Ignoring a problem will only aggravate it further. People get all sorts of ideas from a person's silence, whether dignified or deliberate. If the said person is a troll, or is causing trollish behavior, such silences will only strengthen their initiatives.

If this place needs to flourish and grow, people have to realise that they have to work together. Hand in hand. This is not my HDC, your HDC, his HDC, her HDC...it is OUR HDC. If one person thinks he's superior than all others, he's dead wrong. Same goes for someone who thinks he's an inferior. We are all contributing members here, and for some who need to learn the meaning of the word "contributing", I suggest looking at the older posters in here as a best example - Doc Faustus, Flayed One, Neverending, Urgeok, etc. Glaring examples. And if everyone tunes in together on the same wavelength, the "Ignore" button would cease to exist.

My 2 cents for whats it worth. If it offends anyone, feel free to delete it.

That's what I usually try for.
I can't help but think some things I've said recently may have contributed to the inspiration of this thread, but in all honesty I wasn't trying to cause anything or any ongoing negativity, an opportunity arose to "out" who we wanted to post less...not really wanting to go down that path instead I chose to try to constructively bring up a few points about a couple of posters and was trying to do so in the most civil way, explaining my thoughts and reasons behind the things I was saying.
Never said that I expected anyone else to adopt my views though.
I get that I wouldn't be the only person being referred to though, and I have seen things said in here that even I would consider a bit over the top lately, just wanted to get it out there that if it's the perception going, I'm not trying to be here to cause anyone any grief...I can be a bit straightforward but I hope there's a line drawn to the things I might say and an attack intended to cause ongoing issues - I'd just as soon avoid that kind of thing myself.

As for ignoring people, folks, you don't really need a function to do that - just pay no mind to that which you don't want to hear, and avoid the "fuck you, you're wrong" avenue.

You can always count on me to be friendly!!!!!!! :)