obsessed
 

I have become obsessed with this younger, beautiful ,smart ,alpha male.
I can't pursue him and I WOULD NOT, because I have ethics and he is getting married soon.

I think about him ALOT, I get nervous around him, and my stomach drops when he smiles at me or just stands near me.
I feel my face get all flushed- it's embarrassing.
His body is unbelievable and the way he smells intoxicates me.
Even when sweats...well, especially when he sweats.
It's animalistic in how it makes me feel.
He was spotting me with free weights and I felt like I could easily crawl right inside him- if that makes sense.
I never felt such a powerful attraction to a man and frankly thought that sorta shit only happened in those stupid romance novels.

I know this is just my way of diverting my mind away from my husband..and it does dull the pain and I am much more calm now because when I think of him during the day or about the next time I get to talk with him or run into him around town, it makes me kinda....high, but in a nice valium kinda way.


I think I want to stop this stupid path because nothing will come of it and I need to focus more on my training. I gained 3 pounds cause I have been going the lazy route and eating fast food instead of cooking healthy.

I try to work out more and focus on playing on the kids to get him outta my head, but it isn't working so much.

Anyone ever been in a situation like this? And what did you do to get out of it??

Not since my school days. And i only got a broken heart out of it. Several times..


So my best advise to you would be...


Kill him. KILL HIM, KILL HIM, KILL HIM!!!

Find out what this man represents to you and find it in your life. If it is not in your life, get it in there or you'll have to learn to live without it and you don't seem like the sort of person who can or should make that adjustment.

No need.
He will be married soon.




...Oh wait, maybe your advice would be a kindness....

He really isn't a part of my life in any way.
I don't flirt, he doesn't flirt.
We are just people that work out and train at the same place, we are nice to each other.


But I will think about what you are saying.

Yea... suuure..


I can't take all the credit tho. Got it from Dr. Phil the other night. :D

I agree. I would say he represents a hole you feel you have in your life and your (over)reaction to him is how your mind tells you this.

I was away from the forum for a while so dont know what occured with you Nova, but you always were such a nice person that I hope you can find what you need.

Could it be possible that I simply obsess over him because he is so incredibly, deliciously hot:D

That and the fact that you're in heat..

Clearly this man is inches away from being torn apart.......;)

Then in that case, tell him you do bachelor parties.

Sounds like you need to burn off some pent up sexual frustration. All kidding aside, it's time for some good ol' fashion feverous masterbation.

I only just read this...

You need to do some serious insight into yourself about this new development. Assess your heart with a more calm, normal manner and see what you feel inside, for him.

Sometimes, listening to the heart and going ahead with something, can bring about many unwanted drastic results. There are moments in life when the brain needs to take a dominant role over the heart.

Good luck. I know you will think this over calmly and make the right decision in the end.

I know exactly what you're talking about. It's a chemical thing. There are some people who simply mesh perfectly in a chemical and biological sense and other that work in the opposite way - nothing to do with love or attratcion or any kind of emotion other than a need.

You want to fuck him, you want to attack him and conquor him, but you are logical and know that it would cause him harm.

Sounds like you're half-way through it already. It's tough. You're obsessed. Obsession is powerful...and it also passes. Once the logical side of your brain takes over, you'll be free and clear.

but then again, I am a home wrecker who hooked up with a girl who had been living with a guy for 9 years. She's been my wife for 12 years now (on April Fool's Day) and we're still terribly attracted to each other.

I'd say tease him a little. If he takes the bait, then he isn't ready to get married. Sometimes mindless hot sex is exactly what you need.:D

IIf the idea of screwing up his marriage bothers you, then go find someone - anyone. A random hot hook-up could totally purge your needs right now.

Yeah.
All of you guys are right.


I definitely like him because there is a chemical thing happening.
I also want him because he is ethical, even if he felt the same attraction- he would not go for it, which makes him safe.

I had thought seriously of just going out and having sex...safely of course, but have found I am not really into that at all.
Which is odd, I was totally ready to let my slut side out when I was shackled to the husband.
But now the thought of it is very unappealing.

Once he is married, I am thinking all this time thinking about him will fade....



I hope.