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Another Heartbreak Thread... :(
Ya'll, I know ya'll get so tired of hearing about 'love' problems. But I am so confused right now about what happened with my relationship. We were doing so good and then all of a sudden he was gone. No one knows where he is, not even his own mother. He didn't tell anybody goodbye or anything. I am so sick to my stomach about this. I mean, what if he didn't just 'run away' from us all. What if something happened??? I just don't know. I do believe he just left, but at least he could have been decent enough to tell me goodbye and have the balls to end it to my face. I'm through ranting and raving now. Sorry to have wasted space, just had to get that off of my chest. Whoever reads this thanks for listening.
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Maybe he had some major issues that he didn't want to share with people and wanted to figure it out himself.. I dunno , some people tend to hold things in and wont let it out with people they care for.
Give it a day or 2. See what happens. If there are too many concerns you can always call the police. |
I speak only of my personal views on the matter...they may, or may not turn out to be accurate, I am just providing to you what some people will not.
His mother knows, but she's not going to tell you. He's a spineless fuck that didn't have the balls to front up about being unhappy, for one reason or another, in your relationship. He may have even been cheating on you. I'd say that within a week, you'll either hear from him again, crawling back without so much as a good excuse (eg - doesn't want to tell you he had another prospect in the first place, let alone that he was fool enough to follow up on something that wasn't a sure thing, and it backfired on him...) it may not even be another female...however, if this is the case, and he DOES come back to you, I would advise against blindly taking him back, your judgement on this matter will set you up in terms of how you will be treated, and the kind of treatment you will ACCEPT in the future. OR... you won't hear back from him at all. If it's the latter, No doubt at some point you WILL find out where he is, and through questioning the RIGHT people - eg - NOT someone who will adamantly defend this person and their actions out of a feeling of family obligation...not a person that will lie, perhaps even an ex girlfriend, or an enemy. Perhaps a little subtle strategic surveillance of hangout areas, friends and family, workplaces...etc would also be advantageous. My apologies for being so blunt, but I think that aside from a minute possibility that he's "lost", or actually suffering some kind of emotional problem he didn't want to confront others with (although, I personally think these things should be discussed with yout partner out of RESPECT), one of the abovementioned scenarios is in fact the case. Of course there is the possibility that he's either been injured some place out of town, or he's dead...neither of which you can do a great deal about. Sincerely - BJA |
Good analysis, Cheeba. That seems the most likely situation, I think anyway.
Another scenario is based on one that happened to a girl I used to be friends with. Her boyfriend was having some deep emotional trouble, and his parents put him in the hospital. They also told her that they didn't know where he was. If your bf was having trouble, this case is a possibility. I sure hope the dude is okay, but if he's playing you (couldn't think of why he would;) ) Then you need to kick him in the jewels, and get over him. If you need me, I'm only a pm away. We got your back, babe.:) |
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its ok girl if you ever need me im here for you. i kinda feel that something could have happened but think some what positive. does his mother cry or think something terrible happened if so he could be hurt but if not she knows well good luck with the sitution if u nee a perfect good stranger to talk to im here lol jk
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I'm also here if you need to vent. I've been through similar situations more times than I can count.
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My friend did this, he just had problems commiting to anything including his own life. One day he hitchiked to Las Vegas and traded a paintball gun for a sleeping bag so he could stay in Vegas for a while. Afterward he went to Cali and I got in touch with him a year and a half later. He just wanted a change he said. Some people are impulsive like that. I'm sure you'll hear from him again and hopefully that will help because you'll know he's ok.
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Did You ever find her?
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that's what i did when i lost my dog. Did You fill out a missing persons report? sometimes that helps. I'm not making fun, just kicking around some ideas here.:) |
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Did you fart in bed?;) |
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The joke is on me then..... |
this happened on a Charlie Brown cartoon once. It turned out that Snoopy had joined the circus. Was the circus in town when he went missing?
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His mother had put him in a drug rehab...Because he SMOKED POT!...*GASP* :eek: .................:rolleyes: Stupid Bitch |
OMIGOD! Pot was his parent's version of "deep emotional stress." It wasn't a rehab center, though, it was like, Charter Pines or something. Did they think you were the cause of the problem, Rayne? That seems to be the scenario in most cases. Why parents can't accept that their kids are fucked up by their own bad parenting or the child's own volition I will never know.
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Let this be a lesson, kiddies. Never strike a match or flick a lighter around VC... Hell, I'm suprised the methane build up hasn't poisoned him.:D
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Incidentally...I had ALWAYS tried to get him to quit (ironically, because I was afraid his psycho mother would try to pull some stupid shit like SENDING HIM AWAY)...And he NEVER smoked around me... The way these places work apparently, is they seperate you from ALL of your friends, tell you they are bad influences, and basically break you down and brainwash you...He wasn't even the same person when he got out....Wouldn't talk to anyone, and the high school worked with the 'program' so that he would be let out of all his classes 5 minutes early so that he could walk through the halls to his next class without 'running into anyone'....I circumvented that one time...I left MY class 10 minutes early, watched where he went, caught up with him in a deserted hallway in front of the gym, blocked his path so that he HAD to talk to me, or push me out of his way...he stopped, stared at me, wouldn't say anything...Then he started to CRY, and said, "I'm sorry...I just can't....They are watching me...You have no idea how much trouble I will be in, or what they'll do to me..."...So, I told him..."I'll see you again...When they don't OWN you...and you remember who you are"...Then I turned around and walked off... I didn't see him again, until about 2 years ago...I had found him through his 'Highrise Certification' record....It listed his job...I called, they gave him the message...Not only did he remember me...But, he told me on the phone "You destroyed my immortal soul"...I told him, "Your mother did that"...It was like no time had passed...He said, "I told my wife about the redhead that I could never get over"...It was so sad...Then he asked, "So, where are you living now?...He made me explain it in DETAIL....The next thing he said was, "I'll be right there"...Just like that...I said, "You gotta be kidding"..He didn't say anything, so I said, "You BETTER be kidding!!!!"...Then he said, "Watch out your window"...and he hung up... So, I was kinda freaked...I told Seri about it...She had heard about him before, she had actually LOST the necklace that he had given me, she was wearing it at the drive-in...She felt so bad because she knew that I had kept it for 20 years........Anyway, after 20 years...He rang my doorbell 15 minutes after he hung up the phone...You can't imagine what it was like...Seri had to be standing right there...She said she thought I was gonna pass out when I opened the door...I felt like I was, too.....He came in and neither of us could say a word...I backed up and fell over a chair :rolleyes: ...That was what broke the silence...he said, "Are you okay?"...I said, "I'm not really sure"....he said..."You look the same as the last day I saw you...And all the times I've seen you in my head ever since" We hugged...But, that was it....He was still married... It was weird, but it gave us closure, because the last thing we had said to each other the night before his mother sent him away was, "I love you...I'll see you tomorrow" Anyway, after he left...Seri said, "OMG Mom!...He still loves you!"....Whether she was right or wrong...It didn't matter... OMG..I can't believe I poured out that WHOLE story... A Scorpio never forgets... |
they should make a movie out of that and show it every Christmas
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