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Cheating?
It seems that not all of us have the same definition of 'cheating' *cough* Bill Clinton *cough*....So, I wonder...What do you guys consider cheating and what do you think is just fine?....Is looking okay?...Flirting?...Maybe even a kiss?.......I don't feel right about even THINKING about someone else 'that way' when I'm in a relationship.....
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lets not bring politics into this forum. |
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i dont believe in cheating ..
and kissing is to me the most intimite act of all ... but there is a huge difference between what some people say is flirting and how i define it. to me flirting is showing interest and letting the other person know that the door of opportunity is wide open.. i dont consider telling someone that they are attractive .. or goofing around ('meet you at the motel at 7:00pm') is flirting ... anyone i joke around with knows where i'm coming from. it does piss me of fthough that people consider complimenting a woman on her appearance flirting ... |
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Hard to say. Besides the obvious stuff, of course
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I some what agree with Urge on this one. It's cheating to me if you actually fall in love with the person with whom you are talking to etc. Kissing is cheating, and of course having sex is cheating, but telling someone they are hot or even letting someone know your interested in them to me is not cheating
I could go on and on about this one, cuz I have been played in every relationship I have been in, so I am just going to shut my mouth and sit back and read what everyone else has to say |
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its if you allow yourself to get too wrapped up in it or not that is the problem. i've met women that i thought were great and if i was single i would love to have a chance to get to know them .. but i wouldnt dwell on it .. it isnt a threat to my relationship .. |
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Would you consider that cheating? |
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I've always been content to enjoy the view. Even the times between relationships i'd usually rather look .. you can instinctually tell that some people are a lot more interesting to look at than to be with. |
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maybe interested is 2 different things for you and me .. i'm not talking about sexual tension .. i'm talking more about friendship ... admiring someone for the person they are ... not some growing desire to bed them .. |
oh, yeah, telling someone you're interested wouldn't be right
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I probably should've stayed out of this one, the only experience I can draw from isn't really a good example |
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I know what all of ya'll are saying and I agree to that, but I'm not talking about coming out to the person and saying "Hey I have feelings for you" blah blah. I'm saying.......well I guess I'm saying I think it's alright to flirt with someone. Just don't take it past that line and end up in a downward spiral of emotions for the both of them.
In your case STE, I would not consider that cheating at all. You didn't act on your feelings, so no harm was done. |
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I hate to admit it, but I really haven't watched very many movies that aren't horror related.....A few comedies, but otherwise, I'm pretty single-minded that way... |
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well, i'd have to explain for you to see where i'm coming from .. I've never dated ..per say. the thought of going somewhere with someone i dont know just because i liked the way they looked terrified me. I couldn't make it through a meal if the person turned out to be a ding-dong. the girls i ended up with were friends at first .. i wanted to get to know then under more relaxed circumstances. If she turned out to be someone i could actually enjoy talking with .. then it would naturely evolve into a relationship. so if i'm in a relationship and i meet someone else and they have a lot of the qualities i like .. then naturally i would think the person is cool and i could recognize the potential ... but that would be the same or less than what i have now .. so there would be no need or desire to push on with it ... and honestly - when i was in my 1st marriage and things were going horribly - i never had the desire to cheat then either ... although - believe it or not.. i was offered a wicked chance to. |
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The Ring: I mention that I'm going to see the Ring, and JUST before I ask if this girl I like wants to go, she mentions that she's going with her b/f (didn't know she had one) to homecoming The Ring 2: Shot down right after we left. There's a sign somewhere in there... |
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you wouldnt think i could afford that luxury but i know the reality of being stuck with the wrong person and trying to get out of it...(just relationships - i'm not even talking about the failed marriage) I'd rather be alone than be with someone i cant communicate with .. and the people i can communicate with at that intimite a level are few and far between. |
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I would have trouble explaining my definition of cheating. It would sound like a "cheaters" definition I guess, even though I'm not really that way anyway.
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If it's something that you'd be pissed about, it's cheating.
If I saw my girl making out with some dude, I'd be pissed and consider it cheating, therefore if I were to do the same thing with a different girl, it would be cheating. Just make sure your parameters are celarly defined. Maybe your girl wouldnt care if you kissed another girl, but you would hit the ceiling if she kissed another guy. Those kind of things are good to figure out when starting a relationship. It's all about trust. If you are sneaking around doing stuff with someone of the opposite sex that is not your significant other and you have no intention to let your significant other know about it, I'd call it cheating. |
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pretty good rule of thumb .. but your significant other would have to agree eye to eye on it. also... i'd pay good money to have my wife kiss another girl. it ain't happening. |
eatin aint cheatin'
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i've been waiting all this time for someone to say that
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