which is why this is just my take on the situation.

and in my experience, girls are worse at head games than guys are.

I agree with abbycomix, relationships are all about trust and communication..if you don't communicate with your partner, about things that are bothering you that they do or don't do, you're not going to know that there is anything wrong. Also you have to believe that it may just be them, and not you. You can't always be blaming yourself, because you get dumped..yeah at first you may do that (hell i do it!)..but after awhile you'll realise that you're better off without someone who drags you down. By dragging down, i mean someone who doesn't treat you with respect and someone who isn't a true friend. I use to get the "well you're nice and all" or the "i just want to be friends" line, and I've come to the same conclusion that Billy Crystal came to in "When Harry, Met Sally", that men and women cannot be friends because the sex always gets in the way and it's true! One of three things will happen: 1)the guy likes the girl more than the girl likes him. 2)the girl like the guy more than the guy like her and 3.)they fall in love with each other...unfortunately in my experience 3 is very unlikely to happen. and well if you don't agree with me, girls ask you're guy friends if they want to sleep with you, and I bet most of them will say yes. Trust me they have thought about it.

I checked out the site, this isnt the site I am talking about... this site had an entrance page and it is really goth themed.. I wish I could remember it..

i dont think thats why he dumped me, i think he just used that as an excuse (im far from nice). i believe its because im a difficult person to understand. i find humor in nonhumorous situitations, i'm one of the school bullies, i treat people like shit.............but for my 4 close friends and my two siblings im really nice. i stay up with my friends when their sick, i take my siblings to disneyland every year (a place i hate)............i make fun of people and make their lives at school miserable, i embarrass them infront of out peers but when they usually start to cry or become withdrawn i feel sorry for them....but im still a bitch to them. he broke up with meafter i helped jason (a guy i hate, and he likewise, feels the same for me) with his homework, when earlier that dayi made him look like a jackass in the cafeteria infront of his friends. im nice to people untill they piss me off, then after ive embarrassed them, kicked their ass, w/e.....im nice to them. not ill kiss your ass nice, but ya you can copy my math homework nice

and as far as self confidence goes............ive been told i have to much

This is a easy question LOOK AT MY AVATAR! Are they fak? DUNNO!
Do I care? NO!

LOL:)

OOOPZ I MEAN are they FAKE? dunno
Do I care? NO!
LOL

rikki...
 

Exact opposite in every way, and, chew, right?
Not trying to prove anything here...

There are, of course, exceptions, but...

The vast majority of women, no matter what they might say in a poll or a forum like this, really get turned on by a man who is cocky, arrogant, a little bit distant, presents an aura of danger, and who is confident to the point of thinking he's the hottest thing since sliced bread! If he can look at a super hot woman and either sneer or roll his eyes like he's bored, so much the better. That hot babe will pretty much make it her business to rock his darned world!
Oh sure, they SAY they want the nice guy, the sensitive type who is "not afraid of his feelings", the great communicator. But I tell you what, you let a girl be out with a guy like that, and let a dangerous-looking guy start staring at her, and her "nice guy" will get laid that night...simply because she's fantasizing about the other guy.

You can be a nice guy if you want to, but you'll have far fewer dates than the guy who typically treats a woman like a cross between a trophy and a sex object, and who makes sure she knows he could just as easily take her as leave her.

The trash talker, the game player, the arrogant chauvanist, the very thing it's "popular" for women to say they don't like, is the guy who will take your girlfriend from you and get her to do things to/for him that she wouldn't think of doing to/for you (and yes, I mean in and out of bed). I could tell some stories...but nah, it wouldn't be all that appropriate.

I know what I'm talking about because I have been on both sides. I was the nice guy once, genuinely, no faking. But I found my "success", if you want to call it that, increased dramatically once I stopped being so nice. I've kind of settled in the middle lately, but I'm telling you, you do have to be nice, and sensitive, and all those feminine things, but you also have to have a darker side (and I don't mean a HARMFUL side), if you want your lady to be TOTALLY into you.

As I said, I realize there are exceptions to this, but most of the women who have posted to this thread have been either lying or at least shading the truth! ;)

My fantasy girl hmmmm... she has to have a J-Lo butt, lips like Angelina Jolie, Boobs like Pamela Lee, a body like Jessica Biel.... hmmmmm....wait a minute what kind of fantasy are we talking about????? oh right

I 100% agree with you on all these points. Ive seen it happen to me and 3 other of my "nice" guy friends, while 2 of my other asshole type guy friends have NONSTOP women. I mean NONSTOP!!! its so rediculous, i just wish some of them were more honest about what they wanted, so atleast i could know who to avoid. Instead im forced to avoid them all lol:D