Can't help you with that. Never done it. Not interested in dating anymore. Haven't had a date since 2001.

Oh were you looking to discuss why and not looking for recommendations? Apologies if I misunderstood. As for why, I think that'd be very very hard. I would guess we'd need statistics to start. I fairly certain most directors are white men, but not if a director has kids, how they were raised as children, what their situation is like with their partner, etc.

Where are you located? Coffee Meets Bagel attempts to do that (you can only message each other if you "like" each other) but its model - a "Bagel a day" (I kid you not) makes it even more sloooooooooooooow.

Not to return to the "Simple Curiosity Pole," but how do you identify? I've historically checked off "Bi Female" but it seems to raise more questions than anything else so I've recently updated to "heteroflexible" (ugh - All because I just don't identify as straight - This is going to sound wishy washy but I had the labeling honestly).

I've found that when I first join sites, I get a flurry of messages (mostly poorly spelled with no grammar or just a "Hi how r u?" as opposed to filthy stuff - I almost prefer the filthy stuff sometimes because it's typically more inventive than "Hi i saw ur profile u seem neet wuts ur name do u have kik?") but tend to taper off (except Plenty of Fish which really just seems to hit the bottom of the barrel - Apologies in advance to my friends who met on there - oops - heh heh).

I've had the most luck with Tinder and OK Cupid. The former, well, I had to take care of some things (heh) and with the latter I find more of the quirky, nerdy guys that I tend to lean to. I have a subscription to Match, which I should cancel because I think the demographic is more for wholesome, vanilla, Christian folks looking to get married and have kids. Not me, nope.

Have you tried Reddit? It's been recommended to me because you get kinda clever weirdos... My issue though is that Yes I want a nerdy guy (tattoos and hipster glasses yes yes yes yes please) but they absolutely have to have their shit together, which surprisingly is harder to find than one would hope.

I had a pretty promising first and second date with a bloke I met last week - Seems nice and I'm desperately trying NOT to become a STAGE 5 CLINGER - Not that easy. I can be fairly intense when I meet someone, romantically or otherwise, and I'm starting to realize that that's not necessarily the best approach...

Damn, girl. Well I don't blame you. It's exhausting. Let's go drink wine and play with our cats.

I'm in Brooklyn. I don't think a cell phone application for dating is something for me. Ty though.

I do not think about my gender identification too much. I don't feel I'm a man or woman or androgynous. I recognize my body is male, I'm attracted to women, but that's about it. On websites I use man/male because it helps other people in identifying me as a gender/sex they're attracted to. I guess I identify as straight in regards to gender, but not sex. Shrug. Though I do find connection in a Propaghandi song lyric(forget which one) where the singer says "and I refuse to 'be a man." I definitely can relate people trying to enforce me to act a certain way according to sex.

okcupid seems to be filled with mostly 'normal' folks. Its free, but mostly women i'm not interested in. Some are very attractive, but not much in common. I've never been interested in any of the sites for casual sex. I want emotional/thought and other stuff before having sex with someone. Not a judgement on you, or that a judgement is valid anyway.

I've been tangentially connected to to reddit through a boardgame reddit group, but I've stopped playing most board games and never connected with the people that went to them.

Stage 5 clinger? What is that? Intense. In my experience girls are afraid of men who are too intense fairly fast or afraid of their own feelings if they're intense and thus run away from them.

Yeah, I totally get that. I'm not offended at all. And where I am now, I'm definitely looking for something more meaningful. I never thought I'd be interested in Tinder-ing (and my friends either make fun of me or just awkwardly look away when I mention it - hahaha) but my situation was that a super long-term relationship ended in March and I went through a bit of a dry spell, moved to a new place and downloaded the app in June. It was good for what I needed at the time but I don't use it anymore.


heehee - Stage 5 Clinger:

Then they would cease to be ironic... you're looking for a unicorn.

Hold up Hold up! Waitaminute!!!
Chrono I thought you just got married not too long ago and Hammer...not since '01!!?? what tha??
I live out in the sticks and the selection is very very very limited.... unless hill people are yer thing....
And come on Boss I know you got game so come on Man...
Everybody's lookin' fer the same thing if ya know what I mean....

So get out there and meet somebody face ta face....none of that online stuff ya aint gonna find somebody on the real side that way...

Hetroflexible::big grin::That's a term fer my wife but that's another story....
Good luck out there Y'all I know it can be rough but just stay confident I really do believe that there is someone fer everybody....

::big grin::
I don't have to worry about finding someone.
I plan on being a bachelor.

Damnit. You can't be ironic AND have your shit together??

Good memory! Yeah, we were together for 8 years and married for a year and a half of that (married Nov. 1, 2013!) buuuuuuuuuuuut in March of this year he had a psychotic break and lost it. Good times.

BRING ON THE SINGLE MEN!! ::wink::

I am one of those people that looks like they are in there twenties when they are actually fifteen. I can't think of one time when I have walked by a girl that is in college without her sighing.
I wish they would stop that. Makes me blush.