Agreed. I have found plenty of women that I could be happy with, but I know there are better matches out there, and with my personality, I just can't settle for anything less than the best.

Yeah, my best friend is like that. He's about to turn 37 and hasn't dated anyone in 4 years.

If I haven't found her by the time I'm 30, I'm gonna set my sights a wee bit lower.

Of course, I may get in a particularly depressed mood and lower them 5 minutes from now, but I know what my ideal is. I may be happy for a while, but that nagging feeling that something just isn't right would start creeping up on me after a while.

That sucks. Although i havent dated anyone in about 2 years. But its probably for the best, being that i always end up dating crazies lol

All this talk about "the one true love" the person you are meant to be with ... meant by who? By fate? Come on. I think that's all a lot of over-romanticised hokey. Real love takes time. You can't just spot it, or feel it from a glance. It grows out of getting to know a person, out of spending time with them and learning to trust them and appreciate them. If you sit around waiting for some sort of soul mate to come along, you are setting yourself up to be a lonely Joe.

Wow good point. But you would never get to know a person if you never had the urge to meet them right?

I know. It's most likely a fanciful dream. But I'm a dreamer of the highest order. I have a hard time staying grounded in this reality, in this world. I spend most of my time thinking about the future and all the possibilities. I dream of meeting alien cultures, of humans evolving beyond our physical form to pure energy and world peace, no matter how unrealistic and cheesy it may sound. I see things as they could and SHOULD be. I see the best and worst of everything.

I probably AM setting myself up to be lonely for the rest of my life. I won't deny that, it's a very realistic possiblity. But I can't get the thought out of my head, no matter how hard I try. It's always there in the back of my mind. I've become interested in more than one married woman because of this, and I've gotten myself into some very bad situations. I just can't help myself.

Im the same way. I constantly daydream about the perfect future and how it all should be.

I know that love takes work, but cant I still dream?

Exactly. I often let my dreams get in the way of reality though. It's my biggest fault.

See we are alike Ege! :D