Then in that case, tell him you do bachelor parties.

Sounds like you need to burn off some pent up sexual frustration. All kidding aside, it's time for some good ol' fashion feverous masterbation.

I only just read this...

You need to do some serious insight into yourself about this new development. Assess your heart with a more calm, normal manner and see what you feel inside, for him.

Sometimes, listening to the heart and going ahead with something, can bring about many unwanted drastic results. There are moments in life when the brain needs to take a dominant role over the heart.

Good luck. I know you will think this over calmly and make the right decision in the end.

I know exactly what you're talking about. It's a chemical thing. There are some people who simply mesh perfectly in a chemical and biological sense and other that work in the opposite way - nothing to do with love or attratcion or any kind of emotion other than a need.

You want to fuck him, you want to attack him and conquor him, but you are logical and know that it would cause him harm.

Sounds like you're half-way through it already. It's tough. You're obsessed. Obsession is powerful...and it also passes. Once the logical side of your brain takes over, you'll be free and clear.

but then again, I am a home wrecker who hooked up with a girl who had been living with a guy for 9 years. She's been my wife for 12 years now (on April Fool's Day) and we're still terribly attracted to each other.

I'd say tease him a little. If he takes the bait, then he isn't ready to get married. Sometimes mindless hot sex is exactly what you need.:D

IIf the idea of screwing up his marriage bothers you, then go find someone - anyone. A random hot hook-up could totally purge your needs right now.

Yeah.
All of you guys are right.


I definitely like him because there is a chemical thing happening.
I also want him because he is ethical, even if he felt the same attraction- he would not go for it, which makes him safe.

I had thought seriously of just going out and having sex...safely of course, but have found I am not really into that at all.
Which is odd, I was totally ready to let my slut side out when I was shackled to the husband.
But now the thought of it is very unappealing.

Once he is married, I am thinking all this time thinking about him will fade....



I hope.