maybe she does whatever he wants.

oh this is so sad..
so sorry to hear this..
trust me i know what you are going through.
But also trust me...your life will be better off without the loser.

Get some sleep, send the kids to their grans for a while and sort things out. That's what my aunty did. You can get all the stuff that reminds you of him away, think about what to do and most importantly, have some peace and quiet.

Also, tell numbskull and bigfoot what you think of them or you'll bottle it up and take it out on people who you shouldn't. the main concern is the kids though. Whatever you do don't keep them away from their dad because that could seriously affect them. This is just my advice.

I really needed that, Rod. Thank you.

If you only knew how much of a missing link he IS....he looks like he walked straight out of Quest for Fire. I liked him for his personality, and because he was a good actor.

I'm buying a ticket to Hawaii for next week, and I'm going to stay with my best friends and lay on the beach and heal a little bit.

I don't want to keep the kids from their father, but at the same time I will not allow him to take them if he's twacked out. I would be an irresponsible mother to let ANYONE, father or not, leave the house with my kids in that kind of condition.
I think that's basic common sense, and if he can't restrain himself for the boys then he shouldn't have them at all. If he's straight, I have no problem with it. I will not drag my boys into a personal grudge because he hurt me. That would put me on HIS level.

Don't forget that people like to be with other people who share the same life destroying habits as them. I remember an ex breaking up with me for a guy who helped her rob a place she worked at which got her charged with embezzlement and that's it. She tried to come crawling back but I had found somebody far better and I'm sure that you will Olivia... eventually.

is it me or did a whole lot of shit get erased lastnight.

I'm very sorry to hear about you're lastest find. I also understand what you are going through. Taking that trip to Hawaii sounds like a good idea. When I got a divorce, I cried a lot, then I got pissed. I ended up punching a lot of pillows, but it felt good. Even better, if you can blow something up with his face on it is fun too! It does take time to heal, but just remember, it's not you, it's just his stupidity!

I've been punching walls.
Better than hitting somebody and going to jail. I've always had a temper, and considering all the crap that's gone down, I think I've done pretty well.

That's not bad at all. A 3 lb. tub of lightweight spackle and you're all set. :)