Agreed...obviously there's no need to rush into anything. You need time to sort out all of your feelings (but you know that) :)

Certain people just turn the world upside down...damn them:p

i'm the last person to give advice. . .

but . . .

it seems to me the relationship you have with your husband is REAL (day to day, kiss good morning, cuddle at night) love . . . feelings of passion and recollections of love with this other guy are, at best, potential (and therefore not yet real) and, at worst, illusions created by memory. as for me, i'd pick the real love and let the memories stay in the past. . . but good luck with a tough situation.

:rolleyes: you're probably givin her night terrors!
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That thing freaks me out....make it stop:(

I agree with Zero on this. The fact that you even have to think twice about this seems like a slap in Dustin's face. You two seem so happy......I'd be careful, very careful. I'm interested in knowing if you are even going to bring this up with Dustin or just let it continue to surface?????

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POW!

The guy is a piece of shit. Think about this: He wasn't willing to make any sort of changes in HIS life to be with YOU, was he? Did he say he'd leave his wife? No. He waited until she left him for who knows what reason. And now he's expecting you to leave someone with whom you have a kid. With the information you've provided, I can't think of a way he's NOT a piece of shit. He's a spineless, gauche, pathetic little person who expects other people to make the huge changes that he wasn't willing to make for them. My advice: Tell him to go fuck himself

So you're thinking with your big head instead of your lil' (and I do mean lil') head rif?

You're absolutely right...That's what freaked me out the most...The fact that this whole thing even got to me...It shouldn't have...It's so confusing...

It wasn't like I was trying to figure out whether I should leave Dustin or not (that's out of the question)..It was more like "I have this really fucked up, nervous, sick feeling right now...I never felt this way before...I don't know why it's there...I'm very confused...I'm used to being in complete control, and at this very moment I am DEFINITELY not, which scares me, and throws me off balance...I don't know what to do about it...It kinda freaks me out...I don't like it...Tell me what to do about it"....But...You guys fixed it, Thanks:)

Yeah...I'll tell him, AND I'm sure he'll eventually read this thread...I don't play games, I have to be honest with him...Besides, I'd be TERRIBLE at trying to hide things, I'm way too open...And, Seri would tell him if I didn't...She was here the whole time...She's worried, she even made a blog about it on her MySpace page...But...I told her she has nothing to worry about...


I REALLY appreciate all of your advice...Sincerely...It helped me to calm down and think about this rationally (cuz honestly, my brain was kinda scrambled...But, at least I didn't back over a chair this time...lol)

Try to understand...This situation has spanned over a 20 year period....I loved him like you couldn't imagine...The fact that neither of us ever 'ended' it was (I believe) what plagued us BOTH....If his mother hadn't butted in, we may have ended it ourselves at some point, and moved on...OR we may have married and still been together to this day (which was the plan, until she fucked it all up)....Maybe he's trying to fix what happened...Maybe I couldn't let it go because WE didn't have a say in how OUR lives turned out....Maybe he wanted to pick back up where we left off before it all went wrong, because at the time it was amazing....There was obviously SOMETHING there, to bring him to my door again (2 years ago) after 20 years...And then, again tonight...And maybe he doesn't think that Dustin is all that relevant because we have been together for less than 2 years, while this other guy and I were together (at the time) a lot longer than that....It's probably all just because of the 'not knowing what might have happened' and always wishing we could have had the chance to find out...I can definitely understand that...

But...No matter what this is all about....I'm with Dustin now



All of you are right...

Thank you Stephen, for pointing out a fact that I obviously was too stunned to consider, I love you...

*MUAH*

It's okay...It pretty much fucked up MY head, too...

I really wouldn't want anything bad to happen to him...In fact, I wish that we could be friends....I'm just not so sure that's possible...WAY too much history...Too many feelings...