After i had my first child i despratley wanted another and after 3 years i found out i was pregnant i was over the moon but lost the baby after 3 mnths i was a mess they put me in a hospital ward full of young wimen getting termanatoins . but joy a few mnths later i was pregnant again wen my daughter was born i was on cloud nine ide lie on the sofa for hours with her just watching her sleep i think your friend may have depression, as my friend realy wanted a baby and had one around the same time as me and then she went all weired keeping her curtains closed all day and night giving the baby to anyone to look after she had post natal depression, even if she is acting ungratfull just listen to her she may need help or she may just be an ungratfull cow you'l soon fing out. sorry for going on and on lol.x


p.s soz i cant spell.

Thanks for the advice...I'm starting to think it really might be depression or something...but of course this was the first conversation I'd had with her since she had the baby...I guess time will tell. She could've been in a bad mood....I guess there are a number of factors which could have contributed to her coming across so cold...
I plan on being there for her...unless, like you said....she really does turn out to be an ungrateful cow ;)

She needs a nice refreshing frosty banana drink.

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I try really hard not to judge, because there really could be a reason for her behavior, and it might not be what it seems. But on the other hand, I know this woman that miscarried several times before she was able to finally carry to term. But in her case, the first few months she was estatic, almost obsessed with motherhood. But after about a year she lost interest in the baby and wanted desperately to get pregnant again. And did. It was bizzare. She seemed to enjoy being pregnant. She enjoyed the first few months of motherhood. But then after that, she pretty gave the kid to her mother to take care of.

Now could someone explain that one to me? :eek:

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So she tried and tried, dealt with her body's bloody rejections until she finally got what she dreamed about. Then her body expands, she gets sick, distends, gains weight, gets bedridden, expands some more, gets sore feet, gets a sore back, breaks her water, (from what I witnessed at the birth of my first kid) a whole lot of pain from contractions until eight pounds of thrashing flesh comes tearing out from where only her man was allowed before, I'd say that might sour the lovely sweet ideal she had in her mind of what it was going to be like.

I don't think she's ungrateful, just...human.

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Umm....seems to me that you somewhat know what you're getting yourself into when you get pregnant.

I've had a few friends have babies recently, and while they had some of the symptoms that you mentioned, they were so grateful to be having a baby that none of that mattered.
I'm just saying that for somebody who wanted a baby so badly, she now seems to care less. For what ever reason, I didn't expect her to feel that way. That's all.

My mom was pretty depressed - but you can see why.

My baby picture:

My lady went thru post partum depression. It was a fukin nightmare from which there was no escape.

It took everything that I had not to walk out of the relationship.

Thank the Gods for a strong constitution.

I feel like after over a year of that shit our relationship has changed, I know she has.

I love my son and daughter more than anything in the world but to do it all over again. I would have to think long and hard about that.

There is much I could say about how people feel after they have children, all I can say is in short it isnt what you think its going to be.