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not much to discuss ..
I've broken up with some insanely beautiful girls when i realized that all they were .. beautiful on the surface.
And thats not even someone with an 'ugly' personality - i wouldnt go near someone with an ugly personality.

I can fall in 'like' with someones looks .. but there has to be a beautiful personality for me to fall in love.

end of story

and yeah as far as my kid goes .. i'd stop a bullet for him without hesitation.
and if anyone ever laid a hand on him .. they'd never find the body.

I don't think it can work the other way around.
I mean, I agree...if somebody looks like a train wreck, it would take one hell of a special connection to get past that - but...it CAN happen - I mean, take vodstok for instance, he's practically the posterboy :D

If you've come to love somebodies personality, you can accept their other flaws, but what that comes down to as your overall perception of the person as a package, and the visual is not a huge part of that when you think about it.

If you find a person deadset attractive, then it's all good, sure, but eventually, if there's no kind of connection with their personality, if they were completely selfish, or abusive...etc...what then?
It's like this - some flowers may look beautiful, but they'll still TASTE poisonous, it's just what they are.
Go back to basics...lets say you had no sight...what would you rely on to choose a partner?

I mean, those that are not very pleasing to the eye would probably do well to make up for it with a great personality, but a "perfect" looking person can't really make up for a lousy personality with anything more than their looks, can they?
Looks can only get so "good", but a personality, and a connection with someone can go beyond almost any other aspect in life...
I guess it essentially depends on the person who would be involved with them, and the things they feel they can accept.

In my opinion,
An ongoing relationship can only be based on something more than physical...if not, it's just an infatuation...but in my experience, if it's about personality and the connection you have with eachother, that's all that matters to you...

^^^^

i've known people who looked average at first until i got to know them - then all of a sudden you start to notice how beautiful they are and wondered why you didnt see it before..

they way they smile or laugh .. etc ..

it can definately work the other way.

we all do have standards set deep inside us for what we find EXTREMELY unattractive and sometimes there is nothing that can get past that - at least on a sexual level..

i have no set standards for what i find attractive ..except personality wise.

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hell no...if someones a drag there a fuckin' drag for life.....people don't change much....you can base a relationship on shallow shit but eventually one of yous will sober up...than its back to reality.

I would say no.....heres my reasoning a lot of things I think I dont like about a person are just my perceptions of them..... Whether or not the girl is mean or materialistic or snobby or fill in the blank I always seem to attribute these qualities to good looking ladies before I get to know them. Once I get drawn to them If the attitude is not there I can't hang. I should say I wont hang.....The chum can draw me in but im not bittin the hook

BOOYAH!

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When someone has a bad personality, it makes me dislike them even more.

Even a nice person can still have a bad personality, because they're not honest.

I'm not a pretty person and I look as common as they come (I think).

I believe when a person is REALLY good looking they don't live in the same reality common people live in. They can't relate

I think the best relationships come from friendships because it's usually because you like the person and not the looks. For example if you just meet someone in a bar,resturant ect. the first thing you're going on is the way the person looks but when you're friends with somebody you could care less how they look then you get to know them and you start liking them because of their personality instead of looks.

as for the this discussion...

I don't have a kid yet but I'd kill for my nephew so it goes without saying that when I have a kid if anybody lays a hand on him/her that would be the end of their exsistence.