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04-17-2021 12:07 PM |
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Originally Posted by SerialKiller
(Post 1047578)
There is this man who works at the hospital. I don't know what his job is, but he doesn't work in the part I work in. Every since I got there he has been annoying. One of my friends says he came in asking if I was married or had children(never 2 both questions.) Last week he told me he keeps candy in his office & he would like for me to come & talk to him & tell him about myself. Its kind of a joke at work how much I like candy, they call me Sandi candy. He then hugged me without my permission he just kinda did it. The next day I was going down the stairs & he was coming up them. He asked me to take my mask off so he could see the rest of my face. I felt annoyed but I pulled it down because I felt like it would get me out of there faster if I did. He makes my skin crawl. I've been told he is married & has children my age. Idk if I'm reading too much into it, or if he's just trying to be nice since I'm new. Thoughts?
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Seriously ask yourself why you allowed him to hug you without admonishing him for doing it. And why you took down your mask when you didn't think it was appropriate.
I'm going to assume you really have no interest in him and you need to be more assertive. You're hurting both yourself and him by not setting boundaries. May I strongly suggest you take assertiveness training, which is very effective, or at least read the excellent training book, "Your Perfect Right".
To your immediate situation: in each situation, or any future one, take him aside privately (if possible, like a stairwell) and tell him his hugging you without permission was unwelcome, inappropriate and to never do it again. Say it in a professional manner. You and he knows HR is on your side. But if you don't tell him you're not interested (and telling him it's inappropriate will do that), he'll likely continue to pursue you. |
